As a recovering people pleaser I definitely felt this one too. Like you said, kind is in your nature and who you are... But when people see that as weakness they try to step all over you. You'll make EVERY excuse as to why they might be acting that way when they are really just a royal jackass who needs to be checked.
It took me a VERY long time to be courageous enough to say, "I'm kind, but I'm NOT stupid. And I deserve better." And that's a little embarrassing at 34 years old, but it's better to learn now than another decade down the road.
I feel ya sister. People pleasing is such a toxic trait. And listen— girl… 34???? I learned this at 37… in 39 now and I’m still trying to live the lesson I learned. It sucks when old patterns emerge but it’s like, ofc they do… practically your entire life was spent trying to please everyone while forgetting you were also a someone.
Like, I love kindness. Never would I want to be “naturally” unkind. (Bc yes those people exist too. Aka: jackasses. 😂) But man… sometimes I’m like, you know what??? People make me want to be mean.
Exactly! It’s hard to imagine what makes people so bitter. Everyone has hardships but that doesn’t give them the right to be nasty. I have really made it an effort to match energy so I don’t overgive. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m working on it.
Sometimes I want to match energy… or like… raise hell. Depends on what the situation is and who you and who you’re messing with… 😂 But honestly for me it is more of a work (in progress) to not give them ANY energy. I’ve always been one of these, “if you see someone out, say hi” even if you didn’t quite like their…aura? 😝 But now, honestly, it feels good sometimes to just look the other way.
Oooohhh! Giving them ZERO energy sounds like a game changer! Sometimes when someone has upset me it’s impossible to let it go, but you’re right to switch off and detatch.
Awwwww Brittney this was beautiful!
As a recovering people pleaser I definitely felt this one too. Like you said, kind is in your nature and who you are... But when people see that as weakness they try to step all over you. You'll make EVERY excuse as to why they might be acting that way when they are really just a royal jackass who needs to be checked.
It took me a VERY long time to be courageous enough to say, "I'm kind, but I'm NOT stupid. And I deserve better." And that's a little embarrassing at 34 years old, but it's better to learn now than another decade down the road.
I feel ya sister. People pleasing is such a toxic trait. And listen— girl… 34???? I learned this at 37… in 39 now and I’m still trying to live the lesson I learned. It sucks when old patterns emerge but it’s like, ofc they do… practically your entire life was spent trying to please everyone while forgetting you were also a someone.
Like, I love kindness. Never would I want to be “naturally” unkind. (Bc yes those people exist too. Aka: jackasses. 😂) But man… sometimes I’m like, you know what??? People make me want to be mean.
Exactly! It’s hard to imagine what makes people so bitter. Everyone has hardships but that doesn’t give them the right to be nasty. I have really made it an effort to match energy so I don’t overgive. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m working on it.
Sometimes I want to match energy… or like… raise hell. Depends on what the situation is and who you and who you’re messing with… 😂 But honestly for me it is more of a work (in progress) to not give them ANY energy. I’ve always been one of these, “if you see someone out, say hi” even if you didn’t quite like their…aura? 😝 But now, honestly, it feels good sometimes to just look the other way.
Oooohhh! Giving them ZERO energy sounds like a game changer! Sometimes when someone has upset me it’s impossible to let it go, but you’re right to switch off and detatch.
I may be right but it doesn’t mean I always act on what’s right the whole time. Trust me, sometimes I’m looking at my self like… girl get it together